Wise Words Wednesday – Think Positive

Congrats! You’ve made it to another Wednesday, y’all!

I saw this quote a while back and it made me chuckle a bit, so I thought I’d send it all to you for your Wise Words.

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This week, the message is short and sweet, but it doesn’t mean it’s any less important.

You can’t stop the bad things from happening to you, but you can choose when they end.

Think positive and remember that in order to find a silver lining to something, you’ve got to have a cloudy day.

Until next time,

C. Brooks

Wise Words Wednesday – Keep Not Settling

Happy Wise Words Wednesday, y’all!

Today, I just want to put out a photo I saw on The Everygirl‘s Instagram page.

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I love this because I think everyone should have this as a daily reminder. I mean, we’d all like to think that we never settle for less than we deserve. But let’s be honest…we know we do.

Stop. Just stop.

You know what you’re worth and you know that you only deserve the best. So today’s Wise Words are just your daily reminder to not settle for anything less than than what you think you deserve.

Whether it’s with work, with relationships or with uneven winged eyeliner.

Don’t you go settling on anything less than what you want.

Have patience because it’ll come. And don’t fret when it doesn’t come right away. Just make it through the day.

If you feel like you can’t make it through the day, try what Kimmy Schmidt does. She claims if you can make it through the first 10 seconds, see if you can make it through the next 10 seconds and so on. Keep doing that until you calm yourself. Because everyone can make it through 10 seconds, right?

Have patience and don’t settle. It’s simple to say and hard to do, but you’re strong as hell. I wouldn’t be betting against you. 😉

Keep not settling and until next time,

C. Brooks

Wise Words Wednesday – Scars Make You Who You Are

Yesterday I woke up to a Facebook message from my mom. No, she’s not pestering me like everyone’s favorite @crazyjewishmom on Instagram –although, that would be hilarious–she just ran across something and thought it sounded like me.

The story she came across was from a woman named Genevieve V Georget who elegantly put something into words that immediately hit home, leaving me brushing a tear from my eye after reading it.

She talks about how your scars make up who you are, and after the tough time I’ve been having lately, I believe her.

So this week’s Wise Words are taken straight from Genevieve V Georget herself because I couldn’t have said them any better:

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If you’ve got some time, I would definitely recommend reading through her passage (taken from her Facebook page):

“It was a Wednesday afternoon when I walked into Starbucks that day nearly six years ago. I stood at the bar, waiting for my drink, when the barista politely asked me what I was up to that day. As it turns out, I was en route to the airport at that moment…about to catch a flight to Italy with my husband. After a brief minute of chatting, the barista handed me my coffee and wished me a nice trip. “But then again”, she said “why wouldn’t you…your life is golden!”

I’ll admit…the gold star was nice. But at the same time, the words knocked the wind out of me. She wasn’t being rude. She wasn’t being sarcastic. In fact, she was being totally genuine. And that’s the part that really took my breath away.

Because here’s the thing…

This lovely girl saw me for all of five minutes a day. Usually all dressed up on the way to my full-time job at one of the country’s most prestigious art galleries. Or with my camera in hand to photograph two people in love. Or, yes, on my way to Italy for ten days to celebrate my anniversary. This is what she saw. Therefore, this is what she knew.

And truth be told, there is darkness in this kind of knowledge. Especially now, when so many of our connections happen only five minutes at a time…fully filtered and perfectly hash tagged. In our defense though, it’s not entirely our fault. That battle we’re fighting…those rough days were having…they don’t tend to translate very well when you have twenty people in line behind you for coffee or a hundred and forty characters to spell out your day.

Honestly, what was I going to tell my barista?

“Yes, we’re flying to Europe. I just miscarried our baby…we had a terrifying health scare…I’m suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder…and we’re feeling pretty far from God right now. So, yeah, going to Italy seemed as good a place as any to just run away from our life and justifiably eat gelato twelve times a day.”

No. I wasn’t going to tell her this. Because shocking total strangers into oblivion is a bit harsh and cruel. Especially when she’s the girl in charge of making your coffee every day.

But I did spend the entirety of that flight wondering; about our sense of authenticity…our collective vulnerability…our polished identity. And it made me feel like a total fraud. Because I’m not any of those things that this girl sees on the other side of her coffee bar.

If I showed up one morning, wearing my most ragged and scarred self…it would be a very different girl staring back at her [and she would likely feel inclined to serve me alcohol instead of coffee!]…

Because I was bullied a lot as a teenager.

I’m afraid of thunderstorms.

I spend an absurd amount of time worrying about what other people think of me.

My biggest challenge in life is letting go of people. Even if they hurt me.

I hide behind my humor for fear that people won’t accept me without it.

I feel like I have failed as a daughter.

I try to avoid big groups so that I won’t feel like the invisible one among it.

I’m insanely self-conscious of my smile.

I feel like I’m an easy person to walk away from in life…and it haunts me on a daily basis.

I almost always operate under the assumption that I care more about everyone else than they do about me.

I unfollow people on Instagram if their life seems too perfect because it makes me feel inadequate.

I feel like a terrible mother pretty much all the time.

I hate emptying the dishwasher.

Every day, I’m afraid that my husband is going to wake up and finally realize how much crazy he married.

I thank God for every day that he doesn’t!

I don’t like to try new foods…so I travel with my own jar of peanut butter.

I want to write a book so badly that it hurts. But I’m afraid of people telling me that my life was never worth telling.

I struggle, every single day, with feeling like I’m enough. Skinny enough. Funny enough. Good enough.

And I cry. A lot.

I highly doubt I would get a gold star for any of this. But, now, six years later, I do know one thing for sure; that even with all of my frailty…all of my fears…and all my faults…none of those things make my life any less golden.

Scars tell stories. Scars mean survival. Scars mean you showed up for the fight instead of running from it.

And we’ve all got them…even the sweet girl serving my coffee. She’s fighting her own battle…defending her own front line…struggling in her own way.

And maybe it’s not about collecting gold stars for the perceived reality we give the world on Facebook…but it’s about the purple hearts we get for living bravely among the real one.

Because life requires guts…it requires bravery…and it requires vulnerability.

So, buy your coffee…wear your scars proudly…and carry on, dear soldier…

You’re not in this battle alone.”

Until next time,

C. Brooks

Wise Words Wednesday – Push Yo’ Self

Good Wednesday morning, folks!

I’m in such a good mood today and who knows if it’s how much sleep I got or if it’s these nifty pain pills I got from the docs for my sprained ankle, but I’m feelin’ fine.

Apparently, this week, I thought, “hey, you know what I haven’t done in awhile? Used crutches!”

So in a subconscious attempt, I fell down Monday morning and sprained my poor little ankle. It’s now a color purple that is so deep, you would think I colored it on there with Magic Marker.

Fun fact: it’s all natural, baby.

Anywho, today’s Wise Words are about a different kind of fitness; a kind I think we can all get on board with: sleep.

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Being that my social calendar has now been wiped out almost as fast as I did Monday morning, I’ve been able to catch up on some much needed sleep.

So my Wise Words are short, sweet and to the point this week: go get yo’ sleep on. You’ll feel like a completely different person after getting a solid 8-9 hours for a couple of days straight.

However, if you’re starting up your school life again, sleep is hard to come by, so just make sure you’re staying healthy, my friends.

Now, if you’ll excuse me, my newfound kankle needs to be iced.

Until next time,

C. Brooks

Wise Words Wednesday – Completely Capable

G’day mates and happy Wednesday! Hope y’all are having a less hectic day than me!

So with that being said, let’s get to the main (short but sweet) event.

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Today’s Wise Words are just your daily reminder that you can do pretty amazing things. Never sell yourself short because even things you think you could never do, you might look back at in the future and think, “why didn’t I try this earlier?”

Also, I would like to point out that you need to find your own definition of ‘amazing.’ Your definition and someone else’s definition could be totally different, in fact, they definitely are. So don’t compare your ‘amazing’ against anyone else’s.

Do you think you’re capable of doing amazing things? Are you also doing amazing things right now?

If your answer is anything other than “F**k yes I am!!” then I suggest you reread this post. 🙂

Until next time my amazing readers,

C. Brooks

Wise Words Wednesday – Getting Started Is the Hardest Part

Guess what day it is???? Guess. What. Day. It. Is.

If you said, “Hump Day,” I’m sorry, but you’re wrong. It’s Wise Words Wednesday, folks!

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Today, I want to focus on goals for the long term.

Right now, I’m joining the millions of people out there trying to get into shape. When I was training for my first half marathon, I was in such great shape and loved being able to go on a five mile run and not have to really think anything about it. Now, however, if I want to run five miles, it’s a walk/jog that is just as painful to do as it probably is to watch.

I had an injury that still causes me pain, but for the most part, I’m  just so out of shape.

Every week, I think “tomorrow, I’ll get up early and work out.” But as we all know by now, “tomorrow” never really comes.

Starting from square one for a second time has been so frustrating because if I wouldn’t have gotten injured, I wouldn’t have had to start again from the beginning. It’s hard to wake up early and push your body in new trying ways, all the while knowing that you’re going to end up sore (even though it’s a good kind of sore) for the rest of the day.

Just as with any goal you have in mind, starting is hard. Once you’re in a routine, it’s great, but getting yourself to change one habit into another is probably one of the hardest personal challenges you’ll face.

Have the courage to start. No lie, it’s going to suck at times, but know that you’re going to get ahead eventually. Stick with it because you’re stronger than you give yourself credit for.

When you put hard work into starting the goal, the end goal is that much better.

Until next time,

C. Brooks

Wise Words Wednesday – It’s Better That Way

Good Wednesday morning!!

Today’s Wise Words will be short because I feel like they’re pretty self-descriptive, but that doesn’t mean they’re any less important.

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Sometimes I get so caught up in my mind that when I’m working on a project, whether it be at work or in my personal life, and it doesn’t come out the way I had planned, I freak out.

I’m horrified of the unplanned.

But most times I’ll just need a simple reminder to take a step back from the situation and look at the bigger picture and see that it turned out exactly how it was supposed to, or sometimes, even better.

So don’t freak out if you think you come to the end of a plan and it isn’t how you turned out. If you’re still freaking out, it’s not the end. You always have time to change things around and make them better than what you had planned from the beginning.

Until next time,

C. Brooks

Wise Words Wednesday – Get Lost Somewhere

Greetings everyone!

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This week I’ve been itching to get out and do some hiking, so when I was in my little cubicle doing some Bon Iver easy listening, these Wise Words stuck out to me in the literal sense.

Being around nature has been proven to help with stress and anxiety, and that’s not just a line, I actually learned about it in my horticulture class. There’s just something about being around lush green forests and nature that’s so comforting in times of stress.

So just get outside and get lost somewhere.

Go on a hike, or stand up paddleboarding, or a walk with the pooch, or a walk with your boyfriend that follows you around like a pooch because you’re so goddamn awesome. (Hey, I don’t doubt it. I think you’re pretty awesome for reading this post. 😉 )

Go forth and get lost.

Until next time,

C. Brooks

Wise Words Wednesday — Ordinary is Boring

Happy Wednesday, y’all!

These Wise Words come from Ann Brashares and I believe that they don’t need a lot of explaining because everyone knows by now that being ordinary is boring as hell.

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Of course we all want to fit in somehow; with the way we act, the way we dress, the way we wear our hair. It’s only human to want to fit in with the people around you. But what I’m saying is that a great story never starts with, “so I was living life just like everyone else…”

Go ahead. Go against the grain. Wear what you feel. Date who you want. Do what you want.

Be anything but ordinary. Be crazy.

Until next time my beautiful crazies,

C. Brooks

P.S. This photo/print comes from Life and Style Print and I have these prints hanging all over my apartment. Simply in love with them!

Wise Words Wednesday – Giving Your All

Happy Wednesday, y’all!

Today is Julia Child themed because she was one smart lady who had a lot of meaningful thoughts to share.

This first one hits close to home this week because I’m a firm believer in putting your all into every person, every thing and every experience that you come across in life.

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You’re not wasting time and effort on people, things and experiences if you’re making sure you’re doing all you can to make everything the best it can be by the end. Don’t be afraid to take extra steps and to do extra work.

You’ll look back at all the work you put in and smile because you know you did all that you could, and whether the outcome is good or bad, you should be happy knowing that you worked your ass off and did all you could.

Go you!

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Although, when you’re still working hard and putting in all of that extra trouble into something or someone, and it’s still not working out, it never hurts to have a blow torch lying around to help negotiate some of your ideas or, ya know, at least burn the evidence of your [possible] failure.

Your choice, though, really. 😉

Until next time, dears,

C. Brooks